Is there a way to fix incompatible bazi?

[myfs_166082]

I was wondering if having an incompatible bazi means the end of the relationship even if we get along really well? (F Aug 4, 1996 13:30 born and M Mar 28, 1991 no hour) Is it possible for us to work it out or make it better? Guy also has a rat mom and has very good relationship with mom while girl has ox mom but is always arguing with her mom. 

[Robert Lee]

1. The compatibility of luck from the heavens truly hinges on the level of incompatibility between the charts. There are three main factors to consider: the ba zi element compatibility, ba zi chart clashes/harms compatibility, and overall horoscope compatibility.

2. In most scenarios, a shared binding element can help smooth out and enhance the relationship. However, if all three major indicators are incompatible, especially with multiple major/minor clashes/harms, it may be challenging to rectify. Even with the use of a common binding element, conflicts may persist to some extent.

Particularly, if this compatibility results in frequent arguments that cannot be minimized/reduced, it often culminates in a major argument. Once this erupts, resolving it becomes very difficult and may eventually lead to a potential breakup. This is why for severely incompatible couples, a breakup is often the eventual outcome.

3. In terms of ba zi, the best course of action is to incorporate more of the binding element in shared areas between the two individuals. For instance, in the ba zi of the provided couple, introducing a significant amount of water element can help enhance and smoothen the relationship. Sufficient binding elements should aid in preventing such issues.

4. Apart from ba zi compatibility, an individual's luck is influenced by three main factors:

4.1. Heaven Luck - Luck determined by birth and based on ba zi.

4.2. Earth Luck - Luck derived from one's home/office environment.

4.3. Human Luck - Luck influenced by relationships with others and personal efforts.

Each of these factors contributes 33.3% to overall luck. When it comes to relationships, Heaven and Human luck play crucial roles.

5. Considering the human luck aspect, spending quality time together, practicing tolerance, and fostering understanding are key factors in maintaining a healthy relationship.

[myfs_166082]

Thank you for your response! Based on what you said is the ba zi chart "extremely incompatible"? 

Also, can you please elaborate on how we can have more binding elements?

Is it also possible to determine which incompatibility and possible conflict is found in the ba zi?

Thank you!

[Robert Lee]

1. Frankly, I didn't analyse your charts in detail at all. All I did was just to quick check to see what at least one of the binding element maybe and for whether there are any major/minor clashes, for answering your questions. 

Frankly, our forum policy is by right, we shouldn't be having to do any calculation from date and time of birth info provided when answering any post. It should be simple advise based on issues or information you provided only. However, I needed to check just to give you an example of what is the binding element needed.

2. So I was more or less answering your question about whether it is possible improve an incompatible chart. And I said that even with the use of binding element, it may not 100% help a chart that is extremely incompatible. I didn't say that your chart was extremely incompatible. So I have to clarify that.

3. As for binding element, there can be a few different binding element depending on what elements the two of you ba zi. In your case, water was one of the recommended binding element. This means either common bedroom decor scheme for example, ideally having water element colours (blue/black/gray). Or even if you have a family member (ie your children), being say a weak/Strong Water etc. Or any other binding elements that can help to balance the elements. 

4. But do be careful, that when you apply any colour scheme, you also need to make sure that it doesn't affect any inauspicious Earth Luck (flying stars feng shui) etc. This is why we don't like to make detailed recommendations on what do as solution. As there are other things to consider. Some colours can activate the inauspicious illness/misfortune stars or in terms of something that can affect relationship would be the romance/quarrel stars. If there are any such inauspicious stars present, they also need to be properly neutralised or select another more neutral binding element colour. Otherwise, they will trigger more issues. So it is best that you get someone to help you professionally. 

5. Anyway the key point is that bedroom decor or common area decor colours, people around you generally some of the easiest and best way to add water element etc.

6. Beyond that, as mentioned it would depend on the human luck effort. 

Warmest Regards
Robert Lee