Divorce among Chinese people

[moon88]

Dear cecil,
Since most marriages among chinese people are arranged by their elders. Does that mean there is no divorce among chinese people. Thanks.

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Anon,
In the past, arranged marriages are very common. Couples were even paired up as young as 12 years and below.
From my personal opinion, I have seen many cases of arranged marriages that are successful. I have yet to see any ended in divorce (so far). Perhaps, because, divorce is a `taboo' and a `shame'.
In the past, even if the wife was severely beaten or `ill' treated by (more so by their in-laws) she still patiently `waits' or attends to her husband.
Nowadays, as more and more Chinese ladies enter the workforce, are pretty modernized and the divorce rate can match the statistics of any other western countries.
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For the Chinese, usually when the girl marries the man, she has to `marry in' to her husband's family. And with extended family, her life thus would also depend on the treatment of her mother-in-laws.
For the Malays (who are usually muslims), it is different. When a Malay girl gets married, her husband moves in with the wife's family. Perhaps, this way, because of she lives with her own mother, she would usually not face the above.
I am not saying that all Chinese girls are `ill treated' by their in-laws, but there are some who are less fortunate.
Nowadays, many would rather stay on their own.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 4/1/00 2:49:00 PM, Anonymous wrote:
Dear cecil,
Since most marriages among
chinese people are arranged by
their elders. Does that mean
there is no divorce among
chinese people. Thanks.