Conflict with colleagues

[Yuki]

Hi Cecil
I have conflict with my colleagues. I realized and found out that my colleagues love to step my back in front of my boss. My boss felt a very bad impression of me. My colleagues are always jealous of my hardworking, helpful and intelligent. They always bully me by asking me to do lots of works which are not relevant to me.
Can you please advice me on how to deal with these problems. I hope that Feng Shui can help me to solve my problems.
Regards

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Yuki,
1. This issue is currently too `complex' to pinpoint on which theory can be effectively be used to help you as very little is known.
2. Even if full audit is done, it may not necessay help, as human relations are complex subjects even, Organizational Behaviour specialists (Human Resource) are still looking into.
3. Another situation is the Human Relations concept of `peer pressure'. In Organisation Behaviour studies, it was found that collagues use peer pressure to get their colleagues to `conform' (if they can).
Here, if a `worker' can do more work than others, in time, he or she conforms to the group by working at the same speed.
The above, may or may not be true for all occupations etc... Some of these are documented cases such as the Hawthorne experiments etc...
For example, if one is too hardworking and outshines others, your colleagues may feel `threatened'. Thus, most likely `back stabbing occurs'.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil
P.S. above are my personal opinions through previous studies on OB etc.. thus, there are many, more concepts etc...

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On 4/18/00 1:20:00 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Hi Cecil
I have conflict with my
colleagues. I realized and
found out that my colleagues
love to step my back in front
of my boss. My boss felt a
very bad impression of me. My
colleagues are always jealous
of my hardworking, helpful and
intelligent. They always bully
me by asking me to do lots of
works which are not relevant
to me.
Can you please advice me on
how to deal with these
problems. I hope that Feng
Shui can help me to solve my
problems.
Regards

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Yuki,
Chinese Astrology
1. This issue may not be directly related to your problem. But let me highlight for interest:-
2. The closest to understanding our "characters " or "traits" is sometimes through `auto-suggestion".
3. Another area, is in the field of Chinese astrology.
4. Sometimes when one reads too much of their `Astrology' characteristics, we tend to `play the part'.
For example, when we are `told' that we are a Tiger, and a tiger person has certain characteristics, some of us, may use such auto-suggestion.
5. Your problem with inter-racial relationships is akin to this.
Once you can break `auto-suggestion' that inter-racial relations, cannot happen to my family, show your family, that you truly understand that they mean well.
They will, gradually be `touched' by your true love for each other.
Avoid going to the `extreme' such as `flights of fantasy' where, one shows or throws `tantrums' or anger. This will not solve anything but create more problems.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 4/18/00 1:20:00 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Hi Cecil
I have conflict with my
colleagues. I realized and
found out that my colleagues
love to step my back in front
of my boss. My boss felt a
very bad impression of me. My
colleagues are always jealous
of my hardworking, helpful and
intelligent. They always bully
me by asking me to do lots of
works which are not relevant
to me.
Can you please advice me on
how to deal with these
problems. I hope that Feng
Shui can help me to solve my
problems.
Regards