A visit of condolence

[wasis]

Is it OK to make a visit of condolence on my very auspicious day? Thanks.
Regards,
Wasis

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Wasis,
1. In my opinion, there should not be any issues if you are making a visit on your very auspicious day.
2. What you mentioned would dwell more towards superstitions or beliefs.
3. Overall, all of us would leave this earth eventually and in my opinion, paying respect by making a visit is `neutral'.
4. Some Chinese would prefer to pay a visit in the evening rather than the day time so that after the visit, they can go home and get a bath. (Symbolic of cleaning ourselves).
5. For those who have not visited a Chinese funeral, many would have seen short red strings on the `tib-bit' plate.
For example, `visitors' are offered a plate of peanuts and sweet and red strings are placed on the plate. Many `visitors' would then take a red string and later, dispose of it when they are out of the funeral area. This is just a practise.
For those who are pregnant, the belief is best not to pay a visit. Nor it is advisable to bring a child unless it is their immediate relative (of the deceased). Again, another belief.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 10/3/00 8:19:52 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Is it OK to make a visit of
condolence on my very
auspicious day?
Thanks.

Regards,
Wasis

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Wasis,
Further to what I mentioned below:
1. What I mentioned refers more towards visit / condolence for a `natural' death such as cancer, heart attact, old age etc...
(Accidents e.g. car accidents included)
2. For death due to suicide, murder etc...
For suicide, most of the cases, in my country the police would handcuff the dead as he/she had committed a crime. For example, if it looks like a clear case of suicide e.g. jumping down a high storey.
Some Chinese belief, that after visiting such cases, they would normally, prior to this buy flowers e.g. lily and some lime.
When they bathe themselves, they would pour the fiower and lime over their heads. After bathing, they would just wrap up (e.g. in a newspaper) the flower/lime and throw them away.
I hope the above serves more for information. It is not my intention to `scare' anyone. If so, please accept my sincere apologies.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 10/3/00 11:30:00 PM, Anonymous wrote:
Dear Wasis,
1. In my opinion, there should
not be any issues if you are
making a visit on your very
auspicious day.
2. What you mentioned would
dwell more towards
superstitions or beliefs.
3. Overall, all of us would
leave this earth eventually
and in my opinion, paying
respect by making a visit is
`neutral'.
4. Some Chinese would prefer
to pay a visit in the evening
rather than the day time so
that after the visit, they can
go home and get a bath.
(Symbolic of cleaning
ourselves).
5. For those who have not
visited a Chinese funeral,
many would have seen short red
strings on the `tib-bit'
plate.
For example, `visitors' are
offered a plate of peanuts and
sweet and red strings are
placed on the plate. Many
`visitors' would then take a
red string and later, dispose
of it when they are out of the
funeral area. This is just a
practise.
For those who are pregnant,
the belief is best not to pay
a visit. Nor it is advisable
to bring a child unless it is
their immediate relative (of
the deceased). Again, another
belief.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil