Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your lif

[Cecil Lee]

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Warmest Regards,
Cecil
Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life by Arlen Busenitz]
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The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The
result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials,problems,
and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.
Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack
of joy,and broken ; relationships. Worry consumes
time,anger breaks
; friendships, and life seems dreary and is not
enjoyed ; to the fullest.. Friends are lost.Life is a
bore and ; often seems cruel. Does this describe you?
If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!. Understand and apply
the 90/10 secret.It will change ; your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by
how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over ; 10% of
what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may
be late arriving, which ; throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us
off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is
different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot
control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people
fool you, YOU can control how you react!
Let's use an example.
You're eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You have no control
over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you
react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee
cup over. She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and
criticize them
for placing the cup too close to the edge of the
table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm
upstairs and change your
shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has
been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get
ready for ; school. She misses the bus. Your spouse
must leave; immediately for work. You rush to the car
and drive your daughter to school. Because you
are late, you ; drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph
speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60
(traffic . fine) away, you arrive at school. Your
daughter runs ; to the building without saying
good-bye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find ; you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started ; terrible. As it continues, it seems to get
worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you
find a small wedge in your relationship with ; your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you ; reacted in the morning.
; Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control
over what ; happened with the coffee. How you
reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day.
; Here is what could have and should have happened.
; Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to ; cry. You gently say
"It's OK honey,you just need ; to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you ; rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your
briefcase, you come back down in time look through the window and see your
child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss
before ; you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully
greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a ; day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
; Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? ; Because of how you
REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.The
other 90% is ; determined by your reaction. ; Here are some ways to apply
the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on ; glass. You do not have to let the negative
comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.
A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend,
being fired, getting stressed out,etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in ;
traffic? Do you lose your temper?
Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall
off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure ; skyrocket? Do you try and
bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry
about it!
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get
irritated? It will work out. Useyour "worrying"
energy and time into finding another
job.
The plane is late. It is going to mangle your
schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on
the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to
study,get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will
just make things worse.
You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results.
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