Marriage

[myfs_84576]

I?m married with 2 children. We moved to this new house in California in Feb 2001. The previous owners were a couple with 4 children and were in the process of divorce (or already divorced). Our relationship is getting worse. My husband thinks we can?t be together. Physically together might be ok, but not mentally gets alone. He has no desire to try anything to make up our differences. Our life as boring as a rock. There is no 3rd party in our relationship (so far). I was born on 1/26/1963 and my husband was born on 10/22/1958 in Taiwan.
There are a couple of areas I suspect to have problems.
1. Our house is facing South West.
2. Our front double door is facing the dinning room window which can open to the back yard. But We do have wood shutter covers the window.
3. Our garage door is facing South West as well and the single door gets in to the house is facing straight to the French double door to the back yard. There is a big tree right outside the French door about 10 feet away.
4. Our bed is against the wall and the headboard is on North West side.
5. Opening the double door to the master bedroom is opening to the bed, but not directly (opening to the North or North East side)
Is there any advice to improve our relationship or save our marriage? Thank you very much in advance.

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Anon,
On your part, you can try to continue to have a reasonable communication with your husband. (Not based on yelling or screaming or on bad things).
Sorry, I am not a counsellor, but usually, many times, couples with already two children can bring in your two children. Or try to reason the continual of the marriage for both your two children's sake.
Please see below on Feng Shui issues:-

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On 8/5/2002 1:47:00 PM, Anonymous wrote:
I?m married with 2 children.
We moved to this new house in
California in Feb 2001. The
previous owners were a couple
with 4 children and were in
the process of divorce (or
already divorced). Our
relationship is getting worse.
My husband thinks we can?t be
together. Physically together
might be ok, but not mentally
gets alone. He has no desire
to try anything to make up our
differences. Our life as
boring as a rock. There is no
3rd party in our relationship
(so far). I was born on
1/26/1963 and my husband was
born on 10/22/1958 in Taiwan.
There are a couple of areas I
suspect to have problems.
1. Our house is facing South
West.
2. Our front double door is
facing the dinning room window
which can open to the back
yard. But We do have wood
shutter covers the window.

Yes, there are many times when there is a direct path between the main door to the backyard area.
I am not sure if the wood shutter covers can still allow air to flow freely from the main door to the back. If it is not `air-tight', there is still a leak from this area.

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3. Our garage door is facing
South West as well and the
single door gets in to the
house is facing straight to
the French double door to the
back yard. There is a big tree
right outside the French door
about 10 feet away.

Perhaps, you can draw a sketch. A lone tree especially if one is standing inside the house facing outwards is not a good situation. Especially if the main door is at South West (devil's back door).
This creates too yin a location and not favourable.

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4. Our bed is against the wall
and the headboard is on North
West side.

I believe that this is not a major issue unless, eight house theory is not favourable.

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5. Opening the double door to
the master bedroom is opening
to the bed, but not directly
(opening to the North or North
East side)
It is not good to have the bed directly facing the door.

More importantly, check on the first point i.e. the leak from the main door right to the back yard. As often, in my opinion, this is one of the major problems relating to marriage problems.
In alot of instances, I have seen somes where the owners removed staircases and left the main door with a direct wind path to the back of the house. And many of such situations, I believe resulted in marriage problems resulting in separation/divorce.
Wishing you all the best!
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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Is there any advice to improve
our relationship or save our
marriage? Thank you very much
in advance.