Urgent Pls help, Can I bring my baby to funeral??

[bercardor]

Hi
My great grand mother had just passed away
I had a few questions to ask urgently. Can you pls kindly advise within this two days as her funeral will be soon over (carried out 7 days in chinese buddhist way of funeral)
(1) can I bring my 8 month old baby to pay the last respect to my great grand mum?
Not on that day when the coffin move to burn but may be one of these nights.
Some people say better not as the baby may cry after the baby return home
I actually want to bring the baby but on the other hand, I am afraid that the baby will really cry non-stop after returning home from the funeral.
(2) If yes, What kind of "precaution steps" that I must take? E.g. used a kind of leaves to wash the baby after returning from the funeral?
Thanks

[Cecil Lee]

Dear Ber,
(This is not based on Feng Shui).
It is best that you should not bring your 8 month old baby to the wake or funeral.
As you have mentioned, there are cases where the baby will cry non-stop after coming home from such occasions.
There are a few situations that may help: One is to buy flowers and lime and bring it to a temple to pray. Then use a clean bowl and fill the bowl with water. Add the flowers and lime and pour it over the childs head and the rest of the body.
Remove the `waste' flowers and lime and discard it immediately.
----- My personal experience ----
Well, this is not entirely based on the same situation but I recalled when my younger brother was a child, my mother brought him to exhume my grandfather's grave as the site is due for construction of Government Housing Board flat.
I am sure what is the reason, maybe the grave diggers were not happy with the `Red packet' or money given to the grave diggers.
One of the grave diggers gave put a black button (most probably from my grandfather's burial suite on my younger brother's hand). I think he was only 2 years old.
After that, he cried non-stop. My mum had to go to the `Kuan Yim' or Goddess of Mercy Temple located at Waterloo Street/Queens Streen i.e. purchased some flowers and lemon/lime from those selling flowers outside the temple and followed the above to cleanse my brother.
For information, there is a picture of the " Goddess of Mercy " under Photo Tours of Interest (with Picture attachments) in this forum.
If you explain to your relatives properly, I think they would understand why you should not bring your child to the funeral.
Warmest Regards,
Cecil

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On 9/7/99 11:43:20 AM, Anonymous wrote:
Hi
My great grand mother had just
passed away
I had a few questions to ask
urgently. Can you pls kindly
advise within this two days as
her funeral will be soon over
(carried out 7 days in chinese
buddhist way of funeral)
(1) can I bring my 8 month old
baby to pay the last respect
to my great grand mum?
Not on that day when the
coffin move to burn but may be
one of these nights.
Some people say better not as
the baby may cry after the
baby return home
I actually want to bring the
baby but on the other hand, I
am afraid that the baby will
really cry non-stop after
returning home from the
funeral.
(2) If yes, What kind of
"precaution steps" that I must
take? E.g. used a kind of
leaves to wash the baby after
returning from the funeral?
Thanks